JOHN 14:15-21
YOU’VE GOT A FRIEND
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to se you again.
Winter – spring – summer – or fall
All you have to call
And I’ll be there –
You’ve got a friend.
Ok – I probably have lost some of you for the rest of the sermon as you are trying to remember the rest of the words to the song – or remembering where you were when you first heard it – – or going through all the different memories the song brings up for you.
The song – of course – is “You’ve Got A Friend” – written – I think – by Carol King – and made famous by North Carolina’s own James Taylor.
It’s a beautiful song with a beautiful message of commitment and love.
I do remember one extremely funny sketch on Saturday Night Live with Carol King and – I think – Steve Martin. Carol was inside a nice, warm house – the fire in the fireplace blazing – playing the piano and singing “You’ve Got A Friend”. Outside was a blizzard – the snow falling at a fast rate and the wind howling.
Steve Martin was outside the house – and you could hear him pounding on the door and screaming:
“Carol – open up! It’s your old friend – Steve!
Open up!
It’s freezing out here!”
But Carol just continued playing and singing “You’ve Got A Friend”
Steve then appeared at the window – screaming – pressing his face against the window – yelling for Carol to open the door. Carol continued playing and singing – oblivious to Steve.
As the skit continued Steve was hanging onto the window – screaming – grimacing as only Steve Martin can – and finally collapsed into the snow. Finally Carol got up from the piano and looked out the window – but Steve was covered by the snow and she couldn’t see him.
A funny skit –
But the sentiments of the song “You’ve Got A Friend’
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to se you again.
Winter – spring – summer – or fall
All you have to call
And I’ll be there –
You’ve got a friend.
are serious.
We all need friends.
Surely there have been times you wished that you had a friend – or were glad you had a friend – someone to help when the chips are down.
Surely you have wished at times that you had someone to talk to when you were lonely — someone to listen to your problems — someone who cared — someone who would love you even if you were in the wrong?
Or you were glad you had a friend like that.
Have you ever heard someone say,
“He doesn’t have a prayer”– or
“She doesn’t have a prayer.”
What they mean, of course, he or she is hopeless.
Have you ever felt like you didn’t have a prayer?
That you were hopeless?
When you felt hopeless, wouldn’t it have been nice to have a friend to talk to?
Or if you had one – weren’t you glad you did?
Wouldn’t it have been nice at those times in your life to have a prayer?
Wouldn’t it have been nice to talk to God and know that He is listening?
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to se you again.
Winter – spring – summer – or fall
All you have to call
And I’ll be there –
You’ve got a friend.
Wouldn’t it be nice to know that God is your friend?
Wouldn’t it be nice to know that God loves you and will help?
Because, if God loves you, you are not hopeless! If God will help you, you have hope! If God loves and will help you, things will work out! If God is your friend – then you can make it through the hard times in life.
Yea – for most of us it is important to have friends. For most of us it would be important to know – beyond the shadow of a doubt – that God is your friend.
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to se you again.
Winter – spring – summer – or fall
All you have to call
And I’ll be there –
You’ve got a friend.
Well – maybe you don’t think you need friends.
Maybe you never felt hopeless.
Maybe you’re one of those beautiful people that we see in magazines — with symmetrical features — good hair — perfect teeth — great talent.
Or maybe you are a good athlete — or always get A’s on tests — or make people laugh –
Or maybe you have succeeded in your career — or things are just going well for you.
There are people like that, you know.
Or at least it seems that way.
Beautiful!
Successful!
Never in doubt!
Or so it seems.
But you know what — beautiful people have their problems too.
Even beautiful people need friends.
Philip Yancey is the author of the book Where Is God When It Hurts?
He talks about interviewing the beautiful people — famous football players — movie stars — authors — TV personalities. He talks about how we idolize them — how we want to be like them — how we want to know every detail of their lives — their clothes — their romances — even their toothpaste. Then he goes on to say:
“Yet I must tell you that, in my limited experience,
these our ‘idols’ are as miserable a group of people as I have ever met.
Most have troubled or broken marriages.
Nearly all are hopelessly dependent on psychotherapy.
In a heavy irony, these larger-than-life heroes
seem tormented by incurable self-doubt.
(Philip Yancey, Where Is God When It Hurts?)
“Tormented by incurable self doubt!”
Hard to imagine, isn’t it!
But we know that it’s true.
We know about their broken marriages — their addiction to drugs and alcohol. We know that their talent has a dark side.
If the beautiful people find themselves “tormented by incurable self doubt,” we need not feel odd if we, too, sometimes feel lonely — isolated — uncertain. – like we need a friend.
That is part of the human condition.
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to se you again.
Winter – spring – summer – or fall
All you have to call
And I’ll be there –
You’ve got a friend.
That is how Jesus’ disciples felt — lonely — isolated — uncertain.
Like they needed a friend.
You might even say that they felt betrayed.
Jesus was talking about leaving them. He was talking about dying. The disciples had made great sacrifices to follow Jesus. They had staked everything on him. They had walked away from their fishing businesses. They had left home and hearth. They had allowed themselves to believe that Jesus was the one who would turn everything around — would make everything right. They had believed that he was the Messiah — the one who would save Israel.
And now he was talking about leaving them.
Can you imagine how they felt?
The sense of betrayal!
Why had Jesus asked them to follow him if he intended to leave them?
Why had he brought them this far only to abandon them?
Yea – I’m sure the disciples felt that they needed a friend.
Jesus knew that his disciples were afraid – that y felt that they needed a friend — so he made them a promise.
He said, “I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, to be with you forever.”
An advocare.
A friend.
In the original Greek, the word we translate as “Advocate” is “parakletos.”
So what?
What does “parakletos” mean?
Well it means “someone called in to help.”
A parakletos could be a lawyer called in to defend you.
It could be a witness called in to testify in your behalf.
A “parakletos” could be anyone called in to help in your hour of need.
A friend.
Jesus, knowing that he would soon ascend back to the Father, promised his disciples a “parakletos”–
someone on whom they could call when they needed help — someone who would be there for them in their hour of need.
A friend.
Jesus promised that this friend would be with them forever.
That is where we come in.
The – “parakletosthe friend — that Jesus promised to these first disciples is available to us as well.
This “parakletos– this friend — is there to help us when we need help – to guide us when we need guidance – to steer us rightly – to protect us from harm.
When Jesus talked about the “parakletos — the friend — He was talking about the Holy Spirit –
God’s Spirit dwelling within us –
God’s Spirit living in our hearts.
The promise that Jesus made to those first disciples is a promise to us as well.
Jesus has made it possible for us to have a “parakletos
— a helper on whom we can call in time of need – a friend – God with us – God dwelling in our hearts.
Jesus is saying – in effect –
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to se you again.Winter – spring – summer – or fall
All you have to call
And I’ll be there –
You’ve got a friend.
That might seem pretty academic to you — not especially useful “where the rubber meets the road” in the nitty-gritty of your life.
But it isn’t academic at all, because it works — it helps.
I remember reading about Colonel Thomas Schaefer, the highest-ranking military officer in the U.S. Embassy in Teheran when that embassy was overrun and the Americans taken prisoner. Colonels are seasoned veterans and tend to be strong — and Schaefer was no exception. However, being taken prisoner in a hostile nation — not knowing if he would ever see his family again — held in solitary confinement in a tiny cell with nothing to read and nothing to do — Schaefer found himself at the edge of his limits. But he was a Christian, and so he got down on his knees and prayed, “God, I cannot handle this. I need your help.” He says, “And I got it!” He received the help that he needed to survive those long, seemingly endless, days of captivity.
The “parakletos – the friend — the Holy Spirit — gave him the strength that he needed.
John Claypool is a minister whose little daughter was diagnosed with leukemia. He thought, “I don’t believe I can survive if she should die.” But he was a man of faith, and called on God to help him. He describes what happened. He says:
“The truth of the matter
was that this crisis did bring its own special potencies with it.
Looking ahead I would say, ‘I do not think I can stand it,’
and looking back I would say, ‘I do not know how we were able to survive,’
but the truth is we did….
I and my daughter and the members of my family
were met in the worst of times
by energies we knew nothing about ahead of time….
All I know is: the Lord did provide as he promised
and coming to trust in him
is enormously encouraging to me as I face the future.”
As you see from these examples, those who live in the presence of the Holy Spirit cannot expect easy lives – Jesus never promised us a bed of roses – but the Spirit helps us to prevail no matter how difficult the circumstances.
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to se you again.
Winter – spring – summer – or fall
All you have to call
And I’ll be there –
You’ve got a friend.
Earlier in this sermon, I mentioned Philip Yancey, who interviewed football heroes — movie stars — television personalities — only to find that these beautiful people had feet of clay — that they were “tormented by incurable self doubt!”
He went on to write about the other side of the coin — people whom he calls “servants” — missionaries — doctors and nurses working in Third World countries — linguists living among primitive people in remote places, often for decades, to translate the Bible for those people.
Yancey says:
I was prepared to honor and admire these servants,
to hold them up as inspiring examples.
I was not, however, prepared to envy them.
But as I now reflect on the two groups side by side, stars and servants,
the servants clearly emerge as the favored ones, the graced ones.
They work for low pay, long hours, and no applause,
‘wasting’ their talents and skills among the poor and uneducated.
But somehow in the process of losing their lives they have found them.”
(Philip Yancey, Where is God When It Hurts?
Jesus promised us the Holy Spirit, and has delivered on that promise.
Those of us who believe in Christ can expect the Spirit to help us when we need help — anytime — day or night.
The only question is whether we will follow faithfully.
If we will, God will bless us with lives that become stronger day by day — with faith to drive out fear — with lives solid at the core.
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to se you again.
Winter – spring – summer – or fall
All you have to call
And I’ll be there –
You’ve got a friend.
On the cover of today’s bulletin there is an old Southern prayer.
Let’s read that prayer together:
“O Lord, help me to understand
that you ain’t goin’ to let nuthin’ come my way
that You and I together can’t handle. Amen.
Yea – you’ve got a friend!
Amen.